Captivity Chapter One: Questions

Questions that came up for me during the reading that may help you kind of trigger some internal conversations:

What Moments have you considered a "rite of passage?"
The author talked a lot about rites of passage, making me reflect on what I thought were big moments or turning points in my life.  I feel like before I got married, the biggest moment was moving for college.  I could not wait to be on my own and out of the house and as independent as I could.  I'm not sure it's a "woman's rite" specifically, but as a person, it was definitely one of mine. :)

What advice, if any were you give about being "a woman?"
I think because my mom grew in a family that had a very traditional "women serve the man" type of view, she erred more on the "you are not a man's servant" type mentality.  Which was a good and a bad thing for me.  Good because I would never let a man walk all over me, but bad because I feel like sometimes I don't see that serving JT is also a way to show that I love him.

Some people would say a boy's "rite of passage" would be something like going camping with their dad.  What would a girl's "rite of passage be?"

What does a successful woman to me look like?
Being joyful, even when times are tough.  Going after the things that she is passionate about.  Having wisdom, honoring and respecting people even when it is difficult.  Making others happy, but also being able to stay true to herself.

What do I feel like I'm "too much of?"
Too emotional, too insecure, indecisive, attached

What do I feel like I'm "not enough of?"
pretty enough, outgoing enough, likable, talented

Why do I feel scared of going on an adventure?
Feeling not good enough for it

What desires do I try to bury?
dreams, feeling like things aren't practical.  Not believing I am capable.

Why do I feel uncomfortable being "delighted in?"
still working that out...


I feel as woman, we are told so many lies about how we are supposed to be and how we aren't doing what we should be doing.  I'm excited and nervous to ask the tough questions, get to the heart of why we feel the way we do and find the lies we believe; and learn to dump those and start to actually believe and see the truth about ourselves.  There is so much we can do and be, if only we know how much we are worth and begin to realize how "enough" we really are.